Who else can better write about love than my friend Himanshu Geed ….. he is the God of Blogging , I must say! The Chronicles of First Love is a legend , a true legend already acclaimed . I am here not to write a story or incidence from my past , rather , just a few words , of what I feel , of what I have experienced myself or by my friends. Whatever I m writing is just MY expression . For being more authentic , switch over to Wikipedia or Google and you will find everything related to love , infatuation and crushes , ranging from their definitions to thousands of thesis. Honestly speaking , I haven’t read any of them , but have clicked on everything at least once. Whenever I try to read these kind of stuff , I feel as if all that written is obvious and hasn’t got anything new ! I think its already too late ………. I must begin now !
Quite controversial and prone to interjections , when do you know you are in infatuation ?When you come across a hot and beautiful girl in a shop , you attain a momentary “Crush” , which vanishes as soon as you step out of the doors.(Crushes are meant to be disguise , never to believe on them ). Infatuation takes time to build up I suppose. When you start liking someone over a period of time , missing the company of that someone often.( hey , now I realize I am going to write in reference to girls , so plz pardon me). You are still not completely emotional regarding her , still you engage yourself in beautiful fantasies of you and her in restaurants , sitting together in classrooms , meeting somewhere coincidently , you suddenly start dreaming and anticipating these events in your imagination. And when by chance any of these dreams come true the next day , you are left wondering how that happened ! Was it really a dream ! Is there something really written in destiny for us ! This cant be coincidence , there is definitely something which is behind all these …… and blah blah blah . You want to spent more time with her , just because you enjoy her company , just because you feel happy being with her. Your childishness comes alive , and if its mutual , then it gets more strong.You want to see her most of the time during the day , you wait for her sms , you can predict when she is going to call , you know at what time she will come on gtalk ,you know a lot , still you want to know more about her. This is not love my friends , this is still infatuation , may be a stronger one I agree , but still not love.
Infatuation isn’t something to regret upon. Everyone wants to be happy , to feel good , to care and moreover , to be cared . Infact , it’s a beautiful experience which gives you small moments of joy , apprehensions and foolishness in daily life . When infatuations breakup , you do feel isolated for a little time but that’s not longlasting. Another question has just struck my mind , if I explain infatuation on the basis of above criterion , then what is “Friendship”.If you observe carefully ,except fantacising , all other things which I have mentioned above are very well followed in friendship ! Now why a girl becomes your best friend and for another you get infatuated is something which I frankly don’t know ! Contrasting feelings for two different people at the same time and often in the same reference ( for eg – classroom) , how and why that happens ! But this is true . Being a boy , you can definitely be best friends with a girl , but even if you are in infatuation with someone else , your best friend will still be more important to you ( if she is really your best buddy). Perhaps here is where the difference lies between love and infatuation J
Love isnt easy , it isnt complex even ! Love is something which cant be defined , perhaps love doesn’t have a reason at all , nor repercussions …… love has no other consequence other than madness. So why I m writing this blog ! Just to write over what I feel about an “Experience” named love . Yes , love is an experience , it’s a process which continues forever. You love nature , you love something or else in this world. When you are hating something , at the same time you are loving something else with reference to which you decide to hate.
When you are in infatuation , you say from the very beginning , “ Probably I m in love”. When you are in love , you never know for days whether its love or not . Love is a lot different from infatuation. It so happens that some day out of the hell you start realising that you are not the same person as you were a few months before. Then you start pondering over the difference. Now , you are occupied by someone for a significant period of the day. You want to escape , still you want to enjoy. You fantasise more than required. You fantasise even for those things which you surely know are never going to happen. Still you want to enjoy the probability of miracles. You begin to admire everything you come across. Love is a unique feeling of its own . It makes you secure .It makes you afraid. It makes you confident , but it cant make you timid. When you are in a relationship named love , you feel responsibilities , responsible for your partner.You feel responsible for yourself. Overall , you feel nice of being in a relationship. You want to carry this relationship to eternity. You feel scared to even think of your life without your partner. You feel as if that cant happen ….. after all you are made for each other. If you were to be separated , then why did destiny help you meet.
But this is the truth of life – Marriage is not the only aim which love seeks. Every couple in love thinks of marriage , but is it really the final destination? Love is very delicate. You are attached to your partner with such an intimacy that even a slightest of disturbance can break this delicacy. You have devoted all your sentiments to her name. When you are somehow , not with her for a long time , you find your life as a torture. Every moment seems a burden. So many important things in life seems meaningless. Yes they are …… they are definitely meaningless because they aren’t going to make you successful. Your success lies in your partner. You cant sit for more than 30 minutes in a go , you don’t want to do anything , sometimes , you want to do everything. Its such a mysterious situation. You lie on bed for 10 hours , but actually , you are sleeping for 5 . You keep turning on your sides every five minutes. You go to drink water again and again and keep walking in the kitchen with vacuum in your mind ….. you are not thinking anything , simply walking blindly. You feel cold on bed even in months like June and continue shivering rapidly for several minutes. A unique sensational chill runs across your body throughout the day. You loosen your grip on day-to-day things. You keep on gazing something meaningless for hours. Your blood circulation gets strange , you don’t feel mosquito bites. You often cry without any reason. You may also cry on small things. You need a reason to cry infact.You try hard but your tears don’t roll down. When you burst out , you cant stop for hours.
Love is something when parents can play a major role. Unfortunately , most of the parents are unable to understand the intensity of feelings which their children are going through. Then come rebukes instead of counselling , dirty references of social examples , frivolous taunts time to time , relating their children’s relationships with failures in some other field , predominantly acads. Parents are unable to understand and children don’t know how to justify themselves. Here comes lack of communication. Those who are in love are generally respectful to their parents , they are left with no other choice than to die and decay inside. Love isn’t seen with dignity in our society even today. It needs to be seen.
Every loving relation isn’t meant to have a happy ending. “Those are luckiest of lucky ones who get through !” I don’t think this is true from any perspective. While in a relation , you feel that you cant live without her , but as time passes , you become more strong , more mature at deciding your life.You feel as if you shouldn’t have been too much possessive. But if you weren’t that possessive , how could you have enjoyed those beautiful days! Love is delicacy , which needs to be taken care of. Love is an experience , which can happen many-a-times in your life. If you are in love second time , that doesn’t mean you have no feelings left for your first love ! Love isn’t about quantity J . This experience needs to be remembered forever , to be cherished throughout your life. If you regret your love , you have wasted your precious days. Repercussions don’t exist here.
With this , I rest my case !
Next blog soon.
Snehil Basoya.
Acknowledgements – My own infatuations …… oops! Experiences …….. and many things related to a few of my friends who discussed with me.
Snehil Basoya says – I have never seen the meaning of the word INFATUATION in a dictionary!
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